Sunday, March 25, 2012

'Pull Her by the Ear, Beat Her by Hand or Stick': How the Islamic Guide to a Happy Marriage Advises Husbands to Treat Their Wives

MAIL ONLINE: An Islamic 'marriage guide' book has sparked outrage - by advising men on the best ways to beat their wives.

A Gift For Muslim Couple tells husbands that they should beat their wives with 'hand or stick or pull her by the ears'.

But the book has faced a backlash from moderate Muslims who claim that it encourages domestic violence.

The 160-page book claims to be a 'presentation for newlyweds' or couples who have been together for some years. It is written by Maulavi Ashraf Ali Thanvi, who is understood to be a prominent Islamic scholar.

According to the book's blurb: 'The book... deals with the subject of marriage and after marriage relationship, as well as the various pitfalls of marriage, causes of breakdown and their causes.'

It also claims to give 'real life incidents' and advises on 'different aspects of family life and how to run the institution of marriage successfully'.

But within the book's opening pages it states that 'it might be necessary to restrain her with strength or even to threaten her.'

It continues: 'The husband should treat the wife with kindness and love, even if she tends to be stupid and slow sometimes.'

The author then gives the 'rights of the husband'. According to the book, these include his wife’s inability to leave 'his house without his permission'.

She must then 'fulfill his desires' and 'not allow herself to be untidy ... but should beautify herself for him'.

Worryingly, the book advises men that they should scold their wives. According to the book, they may also 'beat by hand or stick, withhold money from her or pull (her) by the ears.'

It the adds that men should 'refrain from beating her excessively.' Read on and comment »| Rick Dewsbury | Saturday, March 24, 2012